The reason why I started at why I think sexuality is degrading is that even though it seems to be obvious, so many people act and talk as if the opposite were true. Chasing girls is just something every guy does and should do. It's just the way it is. If you don't "date," there must be something wrong with you. If you're not shamelessly following your penis, then you're a coward who doesn't have the balls to initiate some kind of relationship.
"Why don't guys ask girls out when they like them?" Maybe it's just from the people I'm around, but it's expected that if a guy "has a crush" on a girl, he should use that as motivation to form a relationship to get what he wants. I don't think girls comprehend exactly what they're saying. Maybe girls think that when guys "like" them, it's because they're so attracted to her personality, characteristics and depth of being that they can't take their eyes off of her. A crush is the opposite of understanding. It is infatuation. If a person wants a lasting, intimate and rewarding relationship, the last thing he/she should base that relationship on is whatever was the basis of the crush.
Once again, this seems to be obvious, but this crush thing seems to be the basis of so many relationships, and it's easy to get stuck in the cycle of following those feelings.
I have to admit, I have felt kind of left out since I haven't really been a part of the whole dating thing. I guess, I've just wanted to stay away from following those feelings, and have the girl know in the end how shallow my reasoning for forming a relationship with her was.. which is why I guess I've stayed away from relationships with girls since i was little
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Well, this is true. IF the relationship WAS based on shallow things from the start. But if someone sees someone for who the ARE. And forms a crush for the PERSONALITY then it is fine. I have the same issue, I think so many are shallow when it comes to dating. It drives me insane. Maybe it is BECAUSE I see it on a different level, it really hurts to see what people do to ruin the reputation of dating. And the few times I have been with a guy, the pain of seeing he did not see me, just shallow things, feels like it will emotionally kill me. Sometimes I think it would be easier to have all my emotions disappear, stop caring, it is so painful to care about people that will never care back. The good thing is that there are loving people out there. Really, it is the only thing that makes life livable or bearable. I would not like to live in a world with people who only cared about shallow things, and nothing more. And if the world was devoid of true loving people, life would not be livable. I would rather die
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